This summer was brutal. While our daughter Carlie lived in her kiddie pool, my husband Alex wore long sleeves every single day. Then came the flinching when I touched his arm, the locked bathroom door, the distance between us. One night I overheard him whispering on the phone: \u201cI\u2019m not keeping it from Ashton forever, Mom\u2026\u201d That\u2019s when I knew something was wrong.<\/p>\n
A few days later, Carlie looked up from her drawing and asked, \u201cMom, do you know why Daddy is hiding his tattoo from you?\u201d I laughed\u2014Alex hated tattoos. But then she giggled and said, \u201cIt says, \u2018My mommy Angela is my only love forever.\u2019 Grandma wrote it!\u201d I nearly dropped the pickle jar. Suddenly the long sleeves and secrecy made sense.<\/p>\n
That night, I confronted him. Alex finally rolled up his sleeve, revealing the tattoo in his mother\u2019s handwriting: \u201cMy mommy Angela is my only love forever.\u201d He claimed Angela told him she was dying and begged for \u201csomething permanent.\u201d But when I visited her the next morning, she answered the door perfectly healthy, smiling coldly. \u201cI just needed to remind you,\u201d she said, \u201cI will always be the first and most important person in his life.\u201d<\/p>\n
That night, staring at Alex asleep beside that ridiculous tattoo, something inside me changed. I wasn\u2019t angry anymore. I was done shrinking myself around other people\u2019s dysfunction. The next day I got my own tattoo across my collarbone: \u201cSelf-respect, my only love forever.\u201d<\/p>\n
Weeks later, Alex admitted he regretted his tattoo. He still hides behind long sleeves while I wear tank tops without shame. Carlie keeps suggesting he cover it with a giant giraffe named Larry. Me? I just look at the words on my collarbone and smile back at myself.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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